I used to think it was my job to fix everything for everyone… 

As a practitioner, I naturally want to help people – and when I first started my practice I thought the best way to do that was to take on as much responsibility as possible.

If someone was struggling with their health, I would make it my mission to fix it. 

I’d spend hours creating detailed plans to make things as easy as I could for them. 

But the more I took on, the more I found myself feeling exhausted and frustrated (if this sounds like you, join my upcoming masterclass to find out why you do this and how to stop).

It took me a long time to realize that I was stuck in a pattern – a pattern where I was playing the “rescuer.”

I thought I was helping people, but in reality, I was preventing them from stepping into their own power and actually making them feel helpless – like they couldn’t achieve their own health goals without me.

After years of working with women in leadership and business, I’ve seen this pattern play out in my clients’ lives again and again.

It’s part of what’s called the drama cycle – a psychological framework where we get trapped in one of three disempowering roles: rescuer, victim, or aggressor.

We often don’t realize we’re doing it. But these roles can be draining, not just for you, but for the people around you as well.

👉The Rescuer: Always trying to fix things for others

The rescuer role is where you’re constantly stepping in to solve problems for other people. You might think you're being helpful, but you’re actually sending the message that they aren’t capable of handling things themselves. Over time, this dynamic drains your energy and creates resentment – while the person you’re “rescuing” becomes dependent on your help.

👉The Victim: Feeling powerless and overwhelmed

The victim role shows up when you feel like everything is too hard and nothing ever works. You may find yourself saying things like, “I’ve tried everything, and nothing helps.” This mindset leaves you feeling stuck and helpless, waiting for someone else to come to your rescue.

👉The Aggressor: Blaming and controlling

The aggressor role is all about frustration and blame. It’s when you find yourself thinking, “If only other people would step up, things would be better.” You react to situations with anger or control, trying to force things to go your way—but in the end, this only creates more tension.

Once I saw that I was stuck in the rescuer role, it shifted everything for me.

I could see how these patterns were playing out in different areas of my life – at work, in my relationships, and even in my family. And I started to make conscious changes to step out of the cycle.

👉 What I learned is that stepping out of the drama cycle allows you to reclaim your own power – and gives others the space to reclaim theirs.

You'll also notice that:

• You’ll have more energy and focus because you’re no longer stuck in unproductive patterns.
• You’ll feel calmer and more in control, as you're no longer caught up in emotional drama or power struggles.
• Your relationships will flourish because you’re setting and allowing healthier boundaries and empowering others to take responsibility for themselves.