There is a little secret in my work that most people don't know about. The secret that brings about more healing and transformation than any pill or magic potion.
And I have a sneaky suspicion you may need this life saving elixir!
When life gets hard, we feel stretched and stressed, overwhelm and anxiety are the norm – I see these as roadblocks!
And our usual response to roadblocks is avoidance (or escaping).
It's actually the number one coping technique for stress.
And it's also the number one ineffective coping treatment for stress. Because avoidance is something that's going to come back time and time again, until you actually deal with it.
It's part of the lessons we have.
We've all done it when we know something is not right (ex queen of avoidance here!). See a roadblock and turn the other way and go in the other direction. By going in the other direction you'll see the same thing 10, 15, 20 km's down the road with your name on it saying – lets deal with it now!
I've come to see that roadblocks are part of the healing journey. We can feel what's going on, but we hope it will just disappear magically on it's own, if we don't focus on it.
Symptoms beg for attention. Avoidance doesn't give them what they want. They grow louder. Symptoms stack up! More discomfort, emotional pain & bigger impact on your life.
They're not meant to be avoided, they're meant to be dismantled, to be circumnavigated, and be transcended. They are transcended through self-care, healing foods, self-expression, humour, reframing, forgiveness – just some of the ways we deal with roadblocks and move on.
One thing…
The secret to stepping into your best self, the ONE thing with big impact – is to look straight at your roadblocks. Step up and take charge of your health, that's the biggest step you have to take.
That first step initiates and accelerates your transformation.
When you step up, you show your worth it, increasing your self-worth (it amazes me that everyone wonders how you do this!). Then the most amazing thing happens….it's like the universe shifts events and reorganises your life to help you achieve your goal.
I just spoke with a client who said that when she took action, not only did she feel so much better and get out of a dark hole, but everything seem to fall into place. She got a new job, and an opportunity to do something for her health appeared, which wasn't available before. In just a one hour session, she had massive impact.
When my clients first come to me they admit they used to feel guilty we it comes to investing and taking time for themselves, putting their self-care at the top of the list. But when they see how their happiness, calm and inner strength has had a ripple effect in transforming their body but also their relationships, love, work and kids, they wonder why they waited to be happy.