[00:00:38] Vesna: Welcome to the Peak Revival Podcast. My name is Ner. Today I'm gonna talk about too many mind and how to deal with uncertainty. So the world is pretty wild right
[00:00:49] now. Let's be honest. We've got World War II petrol shortages, AI takeover, economic downturn, interest rates increasing. I mean, give us a break.
[00:01:00] I'm a little bit over it already. It kind of gives me the vibes of COVID. It is just so dramatic and I feel like nothing ever really went back. To life pre COVID. I dunno if you feel the same, but there's just like constant high alert mode and I wanted to talk about that because it's really easy to jump onto social media right now or watch the news.
[00:01:21] And I did hear, I haven't, I don't watch the news, but I, I heard that they're actually counting down the days that we had petrol, which I thought was very similar to counting cases in COVID, which is. Really interesting. and pretty crazy and a really great way to keep you stressed, right? And keep you glued to trying to get more information.
[00:01:39] 'cause we feel like more information is going to calm us down and keep us safe. It's going to, you know, diffuse our alertness, right? So the more information seems like a good idea, you will know that the more information that you have, all it does is drive more concern and more anxiety. So you may be feeling uncertain, so you may be feeling uncertain in [00:02:00] business, in life, with money, relationships, family, whatever it is, but really it's kind of work, finances, business, life right now and the future.
[00:02:11] And it may bring up feelings like concern, worry, anxiety, overthinking, unable to sleep, doubt, insecurity. Kind of this low heavy feeling, maybe a slight bit of dread. And so those feelings make us feel stressed, right? And those feelings are really telling, and I'm gonna tell you where they come from. So I was watching a movie on the weekend, and I've seen it before.
[00:02:37] It's the Tom Cruise movie, the Last Samurai. I've seen it. I loved it. I've watched it a couple of times, maybe three times now. And I just love it. It's a long one. But I love it. And one of the scenes in there, you know, he picks up one of the swords and he wants to have a spa, like a fight with one of the Samurai students, and he picks it up and doesn't know what he's doing.
[00:02:56] Right. And he gets, you know, thrown on his back. He gets flipped in the air. He's all over the place, right? And one of the soldiers comes up to him and. Too many mind. And Tom Cruise's character is so confused. He's like, what? He's like too many mind, one mind on the sword, one mind on everyone watching and one mind on your enemy.
[00:03:19] Too many mind. He goes, you need no mind, right? In order to win. And he was like, no mind. Right? And so you can see he gets up and he tries to focus and you know, he has a better sparring round. But then when he goes to fight against real Samurai. And this is obviously in the movies, but it's interesting, he, you know, he goes into focus, he goes into no mind.
[00:03:39] So having his mind really clear, which gives him a lot more power. And then he is able to draw with the Samurai, right? So again, in the movies, but a lot of truth to that, right? So when we have so much uncertainty, we can. Enter this state of too many minds, right? Uncertainty makes us [00:04:00] overthink so many different possible scenarios.
[00:04:01] So we have one mind on the war situation, one mind on interest rates, one mind on petrol, and one mind on this, and one mind on our family. And one mind. Mind on our bank account and on our business, right? So you can start to see how that creates a lot of overwhelm, a lot of anxiety, and a lot of fear as well.
[00:04:19] So when there is times of uncertainty, the way that our brain works is that it doesn't like looking in the future and there's a gap, right? It doesn't know what's ahead. So in times like this, we don't know what's going to happen. No one knows what's going to happen, okay? As much as they think they can predict it.
[00:04:36] I remember during lockdown, people were saying. Oh, you know, the property prices are going to crash and this is going to crash. And I remember speaking to a realtor that had been in his own real estate business for, I don't know, 40 years, like a ridiculous amount of time. And he said to me, he goes, you know what?
[00:04:54] No one can ever predict what's gonna happen to the property market, you know? And he was right, Anyway, so digressing. But just to say that no one can predict the future, definitely not the news. Definitely not your fear brain. But what is actually happening is that when you are. Feeling that uncertainty.
[00:05:11] So when there's a gap in the future, the way that your mind tries to protect yourself from that gap, from the unknown blind spot is it will draw on information from our past. Draw on experiences from our past or somebody else's experience where things went bad, or it'll draw on something that you watch from news or from social media, right?
[00:05:30] And it will use that information and project it into the future. Filling the gap. Right. Filling the gap with some horrible scenario, but filling the gap nonetheless. Right. And then your mind will go to work on resolving a problem that doesn't exist. So the way, the reason why our mind does that is just purely trying to keep us safe, because it doesn't like the gap.
[00:05:55] But what it then does is that That projection of [00:06:00] what could go wrong, trips up the amygdala, which is the fear response, or the fight or flight response. In our brain, it's always looking for threats. It's always trying to detect threats, whether on the outside or on the inside. And so that fires up the fight or flight response.
[00:06:14] So now we go into a stress response and what do we feel when we're stressed? We feel worried. We feel anxious, we feel overwhelmed. We feel dread, we feel insecure, we feel low mood. We can feel all of those things, right? All of these uncomfortable, horrible feelings. because those feelings are so amplified, it kind of feels like information that what we are worried about.
[00:06:36] It is really a problem, right? It's really a problem. We should really focus on this 'cause it just feels so real, right? And that is just the power of our imagination to trip up this center in our brain, creating all of these feelings, changing our hormones as well. It becomes a very sensory experience. And all we've done is imagined a worst case scenario.
[00:07:00] Frightened ourselves, put our body into a stress response. Now we're trying to solve it and actually nothing is going on in this present moment. Right? And that's where we can come undone, right? We can start to really get worked up and caught up in that stress. We can have too many minds and we have zero clarity about what we need to do in this moment right now.
[00:07:21] So, you know, in this moment right now is where we have our power. Okay? Because we are actually seeing. Some reality. Okay. It's debatable how much reality we see ‘ cause our brain blocks so much out, but we are seeing more reality than what we are when we're. Being tripped up in our imagination, right? And it's exhausting and it's stressful, and it creates such a hard experience.
[00:07:42] It sucks the joy out of life, but it also will affect your business Decisions will affect your life decisions when you are coming from that place, right? You're not coming from clarity. You're definitely not getting your best ideas, okay? You're responding at a desperation, which is the worst way to respond.
[00:07:59] So what do you [00:08:00] trust and what do you lean into during these uncertain times? Because we know that more information does not make you feel safe, does not make you feel comfortable, does not make you feel like everything's gonna be okay, and all you need to do is turn on the TV to the news or scroll online and you know that when you get off, you do feel worse, right?
[00:08:17] So information doesn't resolve our feelings of uncertainty. But what will is the ability to trust that you can overcome in your problem that's presented to you. So you've gotta look back on how many obstacles you've already overcome. You know, I, I have to remind myself, and I had to remind myself that recently I've had so many tech and issues in my business, which are ongoing, but I have to remind myself that I have overcome big issues within my business and in my life before I can overcome this one.
[00:08:53] Right. I remember a client once saying to me, you know, she ran quite a, ran a big company and she was having some financial troubles, and she was really worried. And I said, surely in all your years you've had. Pretty bad financial situations that you've overcome. And she was like, oh, you know what? Like at one point in the beginning, like I was drawing out money from my credit card to pay people.
[00:09:15] I was like, see, and you overcame that. Look at what you built. Post that, right? And she was like, yeah, right. That's really interesting. And it gave her this sense of confidence because here her mind was telling her that this was really bad, but actually she has this ability to solve problems in the moment.
[00:09:31] Right? And when you can look back on your life and the problems that you've solved and the fact that you're still here, right, is just, know the answer. Like that's just proof that you have solved a lot of problems. And coming through COVID, right? and so you've gotta, you've gotta lean into that.
[00:09:44] You've gotta trust that, right? That you have the ability to solve every single problem in your life that you have. come into so far, right? So you've gotta trust that whatever comes up in the future, you will know how to handle it in the moment you don't know how to predict things that are never gonna happen, [00:10:00] and then try to solve it from a place where it doesn't exist.
[00:10:02] Okay? We, we are useless with that. We are really good in the moment. And I think COVID was a really good example. People pivoted their businesses overnight. That always blows me away because that's the power of being in this moment and dealing with what's in this moment and what you have to, right. It's always worse when we imagine what's gonna go on rather than when the problem has landed.
[00:10:25] We're like, okay, it's happened. What do we do now? And you just have such a sense of clarity, right? Rather than this will, it wouldn't, would it not? I don't know what's gonna happen. I don't want it to happen. You know, all of that kind of stuff.
[00:10:39] so the truth is you don't have to worry about the FU future, okay? You have to only trust in the fact that you have solved and overcome so many problems, so many adversities. I think it was Mark Twain that said that most of them never. Existed. Most of them never happened, but let's talk about the ones that did happen.
[00:10:56] You've overcome so many problems and so many adversities and so many challenges that you have to back yourself. You have to trust yourself that you have the ability to overcome whatever lies ahead because life isn't without challenges and problems, and I think that we kind of hope that it is, but that's not where our confidence should come.
[00:11:16] Our confidence should come in our ability that. Whatever it is, I'll deal with it and I know that I can and I'll find a solution to it.
[00:11:23] So I hope that was helpful. So my suggestion to you would be, go back and look at examples of big things that you've overcome and that you've like, even if it's similar to what you're facing right now. And I think with the world we can kind of look at COVID, right? It's very, it was very similar. but you know, it could be other things like financial stress or business stress, or.
[00:11:42] Whatever it is, look at how you've overcome different stressful moments and times before, and use that as a way to build your trust in yourself, because that's gonna give you more bang for your buck than trying to hope that the head news headlines change and make you feel better. Right? You've [00:12:00] definitely got a lot more power within you to solve whatever comes your way, and really, I think at the end of the day, it's making sure that you don't get sucked into a lot of the stories that are there to.
[00:12:10] To drive panic and in some ways, you know, I'm a big believer in that what you think and what you talk about. Uh, and the way that you behave really dictates your future more than anything. Okay? And so if you're listening to all these dreadful things, then it's for sure going to have an impact on your future.
[00:12:32] So get rid of that stuff and really look at the ways that you have overcome so many obstacles in your life. If you can leave a comment below, I'd love you to, and let me know your thoughts.
