Stepping back into your power involves acknowledging where you’ve been given it away.
We have all had experience giving away our power and it happens when you make something or someone outside of yourself more important than what is inside of you. If you don’t value who you are and what you are, then you will look outside yourself to obtain it.
Well maybe it’s money, career or a job title, food, substances, drugs, alcohol, home, TV, friends, lovers, doctor, authority figures, fashion, appearances, experts, media, image, body, car, etc.
When we don't value ourselves, then we look outside for validation
When we don't value what we know, then we look to people we believe know more than we do.
If a relationship leaves you feeling insecure and needy, it only happens because you entered into it feeling that way and the relationship magnified it. When we chase material possessions to fill a void, it only ever leaves us feeling emptier which is why people who appear successful on the outside are often aching on the inside.
By recognizing that our experience of happiness, peace, fulfillment and joy is created inside of us and we are the source of our own security, then the strength lies within each of us to create the experiences we choose; it’s an inside job.
If you’re struggling for the perfect job, more money, or a relationship, then ask yourself this, if you attained your goals:
I’m going to leave you with a little science about happiness. Harvard psychologist, Dan Gilbert, talked about a study in his Ted talk (here), which asked the question – would you be happier if you won the lottery or became paraplegic?
Well it turns out that one year after these events, lotto winners and paraplegics were equally happy with their lives!
Something to think about……
Reference: Alan Cohen, “Why your life sucks”
I’m a Naturopath, Transformational Coach, Mind-body Medicine Specialist & Speaker, and I love supporting modern women who are overworked, busy & burnt out.
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