[00:00:37] Vesna: [00:00:00] Welcome to the Peak Revival Podcast. My name is Vesta, and today I wanna talk about heavy emotions and pain while we are healing. So in last week's podcast, I talked about my worst nightmare that I broke my leg or ankle. And basically if you haven't listened to it, you can go listen to it. I'm not gonna go through it again. But, you know, I was talking about how it was my worst nightmare because now I'm sedentary pretty much for 12 weeks.
[00:01:00] But through this process, what I noticed was something that was really interesting to me because I've been in a lot of pain, obviously in the first couple of weeks, and. The pain, you know, is worse at night and whatever. But the pain was interesting 'cause I was like, oh, it's so annoying. It's so frustrating.
I can't relax, I can't sleep. And then it really occurred to me that the pain that I was feeling is because my bone is healing, my bone is fusing together, right? I was like, yes. So healing hurts. And I think that we have this idea that healing is a gentle process. It's pain relieving, you know? But actually it's painful. I then started to look at, well, let's look at the different scenarios in which healing is painful or creates suffering or discomfort or heavy emotions. Right. And I'm gonna give you some examples, and I know for sure because I hear this all the time in my work, right?
[00:02:00] So just because something hurts doesn't mean it's wrong or something is wrong. And I really want you to take that away because we associate pain as something bad, something to avoid. You know, there's something is wrong here, okay? But actually, whenever we are making changes in our life and things happen in our life, it. Brings pain. Even if we're making decisions for our best interest, it still brings heavy emotions and pain.
And if we don't recognize that that's part of the process, it can look like something's wrong and that we can't do this and we need to pull back and go back to what we were doing. Stay in the situation that we're in because it mustn't feel, it mustn't be right because it hurts so much. Right? But actually that's the process we have to go through, even for healing. Okay. So again, I think it's something that we see as a gentle nurturing process kind and pain relieving. But no, it's painful like for me it's physical pain. It's emotional pain because I'm restricted, I'm frustrated with where I'm at, right?
[00:03:00] It's all that process that we have to work through. Well, I have to work through, so I wanna talk about the ways that this shows up. And you would've seen this for yourself if you've gone through a relationship breakup or you're considering a relationship breakup, and you notice that that idea of that, or the outcome of that is that you feel so emotional, right?
You feel very sad, very teary. And that makes you question whether you're doing the right thing, but that doesn't mean that you should stay. Again, it's a change and it's healing and it hurts, okay? We can't avoid the heavy emotions. We either get them in the situation or coming out of the situation. So in this case, pain and heavy emotions does not indicate that you should stay. When I have clients go through detox and have detox symptoms, you would've noticed this headaches tired. Some people feel nauseous, they can't sleep. they get a lot of cravings or people get emotional around food cravings, right?
[00:04:00] When people go through detoxes and we, we take away their emotional crutch that they have on food, right? I always pre-war people about this. You don't realise how much food is distracting you. You use it as a distraction for your emotions, and when we take that away, you're going to feel emotional, and that can feel like a signal that this isn't right for me.
This doesn't work for me. This isn't what I need. But that's part of the detox process, right? It's just part of the process. And so we have to go through that in order to get the outcome that we want. Even if we are looking at gut repair and changing your microbiome, the initial change that you're gonna feel as the microbiome shifts is more bloating and gas like, that's just as the bacteria are changing, the bad bacteria are dying off and there's, we're creating more healthy bacteria that's going to have some bloating and gas that's just normal. But again, if we think that it should be a gentle process, that everything should be, as soon as I start, I should be feeling amazing. Well, no, because there's going to be an adjustment period.
[00:05:00] Because as we heal, it becomes uncomfortable, right? We're we are resetting the system. Okay? And just like my bone repair for a broken ankle, it hurts, right? The bones are fusing together. Bone pain, right? You think of growing pains as a kid, like the bones are, you know, they're healing and that requires a lot of energy and it hurts. I can really assure you that it hurts and that's normal. That's a normal part of the process.
So for me, you know, when I noticed that my pain was due to healing, I accepted it. when I talk to people about their detox symptoms, yeah, that's normal. What you're feeling. It's normal to feel emotional going through a detox because food was your crutch. You didn't even realize that's normal. It's, you can accept it, right? It makes it easier for you to understand. But if you think you're gonna go through this and just feel amazing from the day one, and then when it doesn't, you are most likely to pull back and quit. Okay? So. Making these changes and feeling that discomfort or feeling those heavy emotions is part of the journey.
[00:06:00] Obviously for me, I don't want my pain to get worse every day. If that was the case, if it's getting worse and worse and worse after two or three weeks, then there's a problem. But I'm really pointing to that pain can be the way, like we've gotta get through the pain, we've gotta get through the heavy emotions, gotta get through the suffering to get to the outcome that we wanna get to. Healing is painful and pain doesn't mean that something is wrong. I think one of the other things that, particularly people with health anxiety, they don't realize that body naturally gets a lot of symptoms.
Twitches a pain here, there. That's actually it just. Very normal. It doesn't mean anything unless we make meaning out of it. The other thing that I wanna talk about with healing that I see all the time in my work is that you may be doing something and you start to feel really good And you could feel really good for a while, or you could feel really good for two weeks, and then you don't feel so good, right? And you hit this lull and you're like, oh, it's not working. I feel like I used to, oh my gosh, what have I?
[00:07:00] Why isn't this working? I'm doing all the right things. What's wrong now? What? Why, why, why, why? And healing just isn't a straight line, right? I've never seen healing as a straight line. I've been doing this work for. Over 20 years, healing is not a straight line. You feel good and then you kind of, it looks like a relapse, but you kind of lapse in there. You go through a lull and then you go up again, and you go through a little lull, and then you go up again and another little lull, so it's never straight.
Right? And so it's in those lulls that if you don't, if you're not aware of that, you're gonna be like, oh, this isn't working. I'm just gonna give up. And that's not the case. It just doesn't work in a perfect straight line like we would love it to. Right. And it doesn't mean that when you're in a lull that you're doing something wrong. Okay. It's just the way that the body does what it does. Okay? I can't explain to why it goes into a lull. I just see it all the time, and I also see my clients or women in my community who get really disappointed and they're like, but I was going so well, and you will go so well. Again, do not make a story out of the lull.
[00:08:00] It's very normal. as you're getting results, you're going to continue to get results, right? As your body's feeling good, you're on the right track, you're doing the right thing for your body. So you just gotta keep going. So those are my insights from my journey right now. And also the journey of, you know, thousands of women that I've seen go through. Healing in our programs and my clients that the healing journey hurts. Okay. Uh, it's uncomfortable. It can bring up heavy emotions, it can bring pain, any kind of symptoms. Okay? But we've gotta work through that. That's not an indication that we're doing something wrong. It's just an indication that we've gotta get through that. And once we do, all of that falls away.
So guys, I would love for you to leave me a come below if you see the chat box or the comment box I should say, and let me know, have you noticed this for yourself? When you've done detox, you've got heavy emotions, or you've got headaches, or you know, maybe you're in a relationship that you're not sure whether to leave or you have left and you feel emotional, whatever the pain or the heavy emotions are.
[00:09:00] Have you seen it as something that Indicates that you've done something wrong, or can you see now that maybe pain is a natural, very natural, very normal part of the process. Leave me a comment below.
